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Sis, I wish you the happiest women's day with this piece that I wrote about the women on whose shoulders we stand on. The women that have paved the way for me to become the woman that you know today.


*Artwork by the amazing JL Straw https://instagram.com/theinkpages


When I think about women, I think about my mum.

"- Miriam, never let anyone make you feel less worthy than you are. You are worth everything this beautiful world has to offer. Never forget that."

Those were the last words my late mother told me the last time I saw her when I was 9 yrs old.

Years later I think about the billions of women who have had to sow seeds in their children. Doing so knowing that they wouldn't be around to see those seeds grow.

I think about their inner pains and their courage.

I think about the strong shoulders that we stand on due to their unconditional love and courageous acts.


I think about the opportunities that my generation has because of the hard work of the women that came before us.

I think about what it means to be a woman.

Being a valuable and yet, a vulnerable member of society.

Being opinionated, ridiculed, articulate, and still strong-willed.


Every woman has their own generational purpose, I stand firm and in awe of mine because of the women that came before me.

I thank them and praise the genuine existence of the woman.


Happy International Women's Day queens .


Gratitude & Love,

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There is nothing better than knowing that you make a difference in other people’s lives and that what you do matters. Giving a compliment to someone on this day is an easy way to begin!

You are probably wondering what day I am talking about, wonder no more because it`s World Compliment day today.

In the global initiative to create the most positive day in the world, World Compliment Day is celebrated every March 1 to spread joy through simple verbal affirmations of appreciation.


How & Where it All Began

Initiator Hans Poortvliet, a recognition professional started the initiative National Compliment Day in his own country, the Netherlands in the early 2000s. After experiencing the success of it he wondered if making it worldwide instead of just national would eventually turn it into “The Most Positive Day in The World”.

A world-wide holiday to radiate positivity.

So Yes! You heard me right- World Compliment Day is a real thing and you are invited to join the celebrations all through the day today and all year if you ask me.

When was the last time someone gave you a genuine compliment? Not just one of those things that people say to fill the awkward silence but an actual, legitimate compliment? Do you recall the way it made your day and made you feel appreciated?

You were seen. You were heard. You were recognized. You were acknowledged. Somebody was paying attention to YOU and present with YOU at that moment.


Modern manners and etiquette expert, Diane Gottsman says in her Huffington Post article about The Incredible Power of a Compliment that;


"The most powerful compliment communicates the message, "I value you."

We Need To Be More Other-centered

So why don’t we do more of it?

It’s easy to get lost in the autopilot nature of our own lives. Most of us are moving at such a rapid pace, bouncing from one responsibility and obligation to the next, focused on what we need, want and desire that we neglect to truly recognize and appreciate the humanity around us.

Mindfulness teacher Erica Bray says there is an easy solution to our busyness and it`s;

“make a point to be a bit more other-centered, and vocalize compliments to those who inspire us, no matter how big or small that inspiration might be.”

"make a point to be a bit more other-centered, and vocalize compliments to those who inpire us, no matter how big or small that inpirstion might be."

Giving Genuine Compliments Will Make You Better, Happier and Kinder

Expressing admiration and appreciation are relational skills that don’t always come naturally at first–they may need to be learned. But with intention and purpose, compliments can be an important part of relationships with people that can improve the daily lives of everyone.

A British research reviewed in the Daily Mail on millennial women and older, about handling flattery and compliments showed that embarrassment is given as the main reason for not being able to accept a compliment (61%). It was followed by not wanting to draw attention to themselves (55%), feeling uncomfortable (47%) or thinking the words were said by accident (38%).

It's remarkable what words can do for and with the psyche, and that's why it is important to always share an authentic and genuine compliment. Pay more attention to those around you, and when something that someone does or says triggers a feeling of gratitude, speak that gratitude — out loud. Let that person know that you appreciate them. Turn it into a habit with a little bit of daily discipline. This awareness should be extended into one or two compliments each day, just to start. As time goes by it will snowball into something that eventually requires no discipline at all and may even become second nature.


Here are six of my favorite tips on how to get started:

  1. Be specific when verbalizing your Compliment The best way to give a compliment is to be sure that what you are saying is sincere and heartfelt. A couple of years ago I was on my way to my office and saw a woman with curly hair and a colorful fall jacket, and the sight of her just made my soul smile. I felt an instant urge to share this with her and so I did. She immediately slapped me, I bit the inside of my chick and tasted blood. This was clearly not the reaction I was expecting but through past experience I knew that when giving a compliment you also have to detach from the outcome as you never know how the other person might take it. You might change somebody's whole world. In Spite of what I just said, I gently asked if her reaction was necessary as my comment was genuine. She quickly apologized when she realized that, indeed, my compliment was heartfelt. Turns out that she hadn't been outside for weeks and the only reason she was outside was the overwhelment of her anxiety and she just needed to breathe. As I complimented her she thought I was making fun of her. Although we parted ways smiling had I not been specific, the experience, and outcome, may have been different. Sometimes the greatest compliment you can give another human being is to acknowledge them and let them know that they are significant.

  2. Send a handwritten Card or Note I think that handwritten notes and letters are truly genuine and add a personal touch to whatever you want to communicate. For the past six years myself and my team have sent out over 100 handwritten christmas cards to clients and people that have helped us through the year- this as a token of appreciation. This has not only made the receivers feel more seen but many have also told us that it meant alot to them. The fact that we took out time to think about them, find their address (in the times of everything digital) and actually reached out on a personal level was humbling to them. Listen, It doesn’t have to be very long, just a short little message to say something nice never goes wrong, as a matter of fact it's perfect!

  3. Cherish past compliments When nothing seems to be going right, dig deep into your emotional vault and pull out a past compliment that has helped define who you are today. One that made a significant difference in my life was a compliment I received from a male friend 11 years ago when I had just started my production company Nabunya A/S and felt like I wasn't doing anything right. He told me, “Miriam, the faster you truly lean into the fact that you are a channel of good vibes the faster things will begin to turn around for you.” I was humbled by his kind words but it took me some years to really understand what he ment. Every Time I feel like I don't recognise myself, that sentence reminds me of who I am and most importantly of who I love being. A strong compliment can last a lifetime.

  4. Make your words strong and reliable For my career focused ladies and entrepreneurs, this one is especially for you. In these times of high competition and the constant aim for your next break, it's hard to praise others if you always feel like the one that comes out short. Those are the moments that truly show character and integrity. When you can reach out to a competitor or a colleague and congratulate them on a new contract or a new promotion and genuinely mean it is a true sign of confidence, leadership and humbleness. Being generous with your praise will make your words strong and reliable.

  5. Don`t miss an opportunity This one is from Diane Gottsman`s list of ways to deliver an authentic compliment and I couldn't agree more. During my first years in Oslo I was working as an assistant manager at a restaurant and one day when I was on the tram running late to work I saw this young man who looked like he was in his mid 20`s. He had such a solid and admirable posture, a wonderful warmness to his eyes but it was clouded by a slight sadness. Even in that situation, I felt an instant urge to tell him. But this time I became a little hesitant as I was running late and the tram was packed, which meant I literally had to push my way through the crowd of people to get to him. When it stopped I got off and started walking to work but I couldn't shake it off so I turned and tried to see if he also got off and if he was still around. He was. Standing at a crossing waiting for the traffic lights to turn green. I walked up to him and shared what I had observed. His eyes teared up and he said, “Thank you so much for your kind words. I was on my way to have a last meal as I had decided to take my life tonight. It might sound strange but you don't understand the magnitude of what your words mean to me. Thank you so much and have a nice evening.” And he walked off. While I`m not sure of his final decision, our friendly exchange at that particular moment in time changed my world. Whose world would you change if you seized the moment?

  6. Thank Service People daysoftheyear.com suggested this one, also one I deeply support and vow on it`s importance. Service can sometimes be a rather thankless job, and a smile with sincere thanks could mean the world to the service providers you encounter on a daily basis. Bus drivers, cashiers at the coffee shop or grocery store, taxi drivers or even those you run into in the store or gas station. Tell them what a good job they did, or notice something good about them and see how much it can impact their day. It is important to be creative and think about other areas of life where a compliment could go a long way. People in education, medical professionals, and public servants are just a few other areas in which compliments might be effective. With a little thought, it is sure to reveal itself who in life could use a boost!

As you give out your compliments today I hope it feels you with joy and humbleness because it truly is a greater gift to give than to receive. Wouldn't you agree?

Whatever might have made you wander around in the past months will turn around this month and make you a “wonder” to your community and in your relationships.

Happy new month and happy World Compliment Day.

Gratitude & Love,



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- Why this "new" holiday is important for decreasing your anxiousness and bettering your self-confidence.

The contraductive holiday that has been praised by millennial women since it`s debute in 2010.


Galentine's Day, formed by a blend of gal and Valentine's Day, is a day in which women celebrate their female friendships.


The origin of the terminology

"The new holiday debuted in a 2010 episode of Parks and Recreation. After that 2010 debut, the word was mentioned in episodes that aired in 2012 and 2014, and by 2016 evidence of the word’s appeal was starting to show up in national and international publications, as people everywhere embraced the very idea of a holiday for celebrating friendships," Merriam Webster continues.


Valentine`s Day vs Galentine`s Day

Well, we all probably feel a small angst when it comes to Valentine's day as it is worldly commercialized to remind us of romantical love and if you have it or not in your life. This making women start doubting their lovelife and men to pursue women just to feel less lonely. It gives me a nasty taste in my mouth just by writing this, but it doesn't make it less true.

According to a resent artical by Health & Wellness Writer Cathy Cassata for verywellmind.com, clinical psychologist and director of behavioral health at Hims & Hers, Beth Pausic, says;

“- There has always been an intense amount of societal pressure placed on Valentine’s Day and especially so for single people. All aspects of our social lives have been altered in the last two years, making it very challenging to date(...)”


"So if you're single this Valentine's Day, experts recommend taking a moment to recognize all the challenges you've faced in the past two years and choosing to be kind to yourself," Cassata writes.


Here is why Galentine`s Day can take the edge off all these Hallmark holiday talk.


It's no secret that many people have a love-hate kind of relationship with Valentine’s Day because to be honest sis: this holiday is, at its root, disparaged as a manufactured holiday foisted upon us by greeting card companies, and often a sense that it’s only for people who are romantically paired, making it feel rooted in exclusion. All of which sets the stage perfectly for Galentine’s Day. That’s right!

a day for women to celebrate their friendships with their lady friends. It’s Valentine’s Day with your gals and it`s celebrated on Feb. 13(today) each year.


Many have accepted the holiday as a day to hang out with best friends — regardless of gender. A Galentine’s Day celebration can include all genders and all of those that you adore.

How to celebrate Galentine's Day You might be the type of girlfriend that always celebrates your friendships as a norm, and if so- Yeeaasss sis! More of that. But if you are not, I urge you to take time out today and connect with one of your girls, sisters, mother, aunties or just your mixed tribe. You decide. As long as they are your people.

Catch up. Enjoy a nice meal. Share your focus for 2022 or just watch a movie, go ice skating, heck! have a digital party and enjoy each other`s company. Really, no activity is off limits.


My favorite way of celebrating friendship or any moment or relationship I cherish is through sharing a meal. Brunch, dinner or a snacky catch up.

Doesn`t matter, because there is something magical that takes place when dining with your people.

It might be the longest meal because of all of the laughters, dance breaks and the "let the Pictures by: Ileana Alvares Reyes


food digest"- phase of the whole soiree. Absolutely amazing. If this is you as well, then girl, start texting and make it happen.


Celebrate Galentine`s Day more often

Between being a self-made - highly educated- goal oriented- healthy- minded - activist- adventurous- partner- caring daughter- supportive sister & friend- mother- and a career focused independent millennial woman, life can become a bit overwhelming. Sis, you need to give yourself a break and start making plans that honor YOUR needs.


Further down in Cathy Cassata`s piece, LCSW, psychotherapist Gina Moffa, says when commenting the anxiousness that these Hallmark seasons might bring on.


"make plans that feel nourishing, see friends who you are deeply connected to, celebrate the positive things in your life, and remember that being in a relationship does not equal ‘success’ or ‘happiness’ or ‘wholeness."

Myself and my girlfriends try to meet up and celebrate us once every month, it`s not always easy but we all understand the importance of our sisterly connection in a grind culture that we`ve, collectively, been exposed to as mankind`s first digital natives.


Moffa continues,

"- surround yourself with people who value you and make you feel loved and cared about. Even if it's virtual. Connection is connection.”


Staying connected to people who not only value you but also know you, will nourish your self-image, decrease your anxiousness and help maintain your self-confidence.


I wish you a happy Galentine`s Day sis and happy Norwegian mother`s day to all of you mamas out there.


Gratitude & Love,


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